Richard Hamming on doing important research

I've heard a lot of people talk about Richard Hamming's advice on how to do valuable research, but I only just got around to properly reading the transcript of his talk "You and Your Research." Here's a few things he talks about I found particularly interesting.

Have the courage to pursue independent thoughts, and to believe you can do important work:

“One of the characteristics you see, and many people have it including great scientists, is that usually when they were young they had independent thoughts and the courage to pursue them. For example, Einstein somewhere around 12 or 14, asked himself the question, “What would a light wave look like if I went with the velocity of light to look at it?”... He could see a contradiction at the age of 12, 14, or somewhere around there, that everything was not right and that the velocity of light had something peculiar.

One of the characteristics of successful scientists is having courage. Once you get your courage up and believe that you can do important problems, then you can. If you think you can’t, almost surely you are not going to. ”

Beware fame:

“When you are famous it is hard to work on small problems. This is what did Shannon in. After information theory, what do you do for an encore? The great scientists often make this error. They fail to continue to plant the little acorns from which the mighty oak trees grow. They try to get the big thing right off. And that isn’t the way things go.”

If you can’t solve a problem, turn it around:

“I think that if you look carefully you will see that often the great scientists, by turning the problem around a bit, changed a defect to an asset. For example, many scientists when they found they couldn’t do a problem finally began to study why not. They then turned it around around the other way and said, “But of course, this is what it is” and got an important result.”

Don’t underestimate the importance of drive and commitment...:

“You observe that most great scientists have tremendous drive. I worked for ten years with John Turkey at Bell Labs. He had tremendous drive... I went storming into Bode’s office and said, “How can anybody my age know as much as John Turkey does?” He leaned back in his chair, put his hands behind his head, grinned slightly, and said, “You would be surprised Hamming, how much you would know if you worked as hard as he did that many years.”... What Bode was saying was this: “Knowledge and productivity are like compound interest.”... The more you know, the more you learn; the more you learn, the more you can do; the more you can do, the more the opportunity.

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If you are deeply immersed and committed to a topic, day after day after day, your subconscious has nothing to do but to work on your problem. And so you wake up one morning, or on some afternoon, and there’s the answer. For those who don’t get committed to their current problem, the subconscious goofs off on other things and doesn’t produce the big result. So the way to manage yourself is that when you have a real important problem you don’t let anything else get the center of your attention - you keep your thoughts on the problem. Keep your subconscious starved so it has to work on your problem, so you can sleep peacefully and get the answer in the morning, free.”

...but maybe don’t overestimate it either:

“The misapplication of effort is a very serious matter. Just hard work is not enough - it must be applied sensibly.”

Learn to be comfortable with ambiguity:

“Most people like to believe something is or is not true. Great scientists tolerate ambiguity very well. They believe the theory enough to go ahead; they doubt it enough to notice the errors and faults so they can step forward and create the new replacement theory. If you believe too much you’ll never notice the flaws; if you doubt too much you won’t get started.”

And of course, work on problems you really believe are important:

“If you do not work on an important problem, it’s unlikely you’ll do important work. It’s perfectly obvious. Great scientists have thought through, in a careful way, a number of important problems in their field, and they keep an eye on wondering how to attack them.... The average scientist, so far as I can make out, spends almost all his time working on problems which he believes will not be important and he also doesn’t believe that they will lead to important problems.”

The value in vagueness

Lately, I’ve noticed that my taste in reading material has changed slightly. It used to be that almost everything I read was a similar kind of non-fiction: the kind of non-fiction that has a very clear thesis, clear structure, and makes very clear points. I couldn’t be doing with anything that wasn’t clear - lack of clarity to me always seemed unnecessary and pretentious. Even examples and stories used to illustrate points in non-fiction books often frustrated me: I just wanted them to get to the point.

Recently, though, I’ve found myself gravitating towards more autobiographies, more fiction, more narrative non-fiction. Rather than reading blogs that attempt to provide a clear answer to a question or a clear explanation of something, I’ve been enjoying reading those that simply grapple with complex and interesting ideas without necessarily reaching any conclusion.

I think there are a couple of reasons for this. One is that I’ve more explicitly recognised that reading can serve different purposes - sometimes that purpose is to learn things, to absorb facts - in which case, clarity and simplicity can be really useful. But another reason we might read is to evoke feelings, to help us think about something on more of a gut level, or to see someone else’s perspective. And lately, for whatever reason, I’ve been more interested in finding ways to feel different things and see different perspectives than to “learn facts” in the strictest sense.

A slightly different perspective on this, though, is that I’ve begun to appreciate that sometimes vagueness has value. If we want everything we write, read, and say to be clear and concise, we’re going to be limited in what we write, read and talk about. If we prioritise clarity, we’re going to miss out on grappling with some of the most interesting ideas out there: those we don’t fully understand yet. We also risk oversimplifying and thinking we understand things much better than we do.

I read something recently about how people who are willing to grapple with and try to express feelings that they don’t quite understand yet apparently do much better in therapy than those who always seem able to express themselves clearly. Those people who feel they can only talk about things that they can express clearly are, perhaps, failing to acknowledge a whole subsection of their feelings and experiences - those they don’t understand yet - which might be the most important. In some ways, it seems obvious when put like this - you’ll only ever improve your understanding of anything (including yourself) if you’re willing to face what’s presently beyond your understanding.

Acknowledging that the world is messy, that our concepts are vague, that we really don’t understand things, is difficult. We all have a strong drive to make sense of the world, to organise things into neat patterns, to put things in boxes, to make things make sense. The feeling that things suddenly fit together and click into place can be incredibly satisfying.

What’s strange though, is that recently I’ve been finding it somehow more rewarding to grapple with complex ideas I don’t yet understand, to read something that’s thought-provoking but doesn’t have any resolution, than to read someone’s neat and simple explanation of how the world works. Given the choice between an article that attempts to lay out a clear model of how something works, and one that explores a number of connected ideas, tries to make sense of them, and raises interesting questions, the latter feels much more appealing to me. This seems to conflict with my model of how the brain works when it comes to processing ideas - that we find chaos and unpredictability deeply unsettling, and a strong drive to organise ideas so that they “make sense.” So how is it that I’m now finding it oddly satisfying, and maybe even more than that - a sense of greater meaning - from thinking about things that don’t yet make sense to me?

Part of the key here might be in that word “yet” - there’s something exciting about encountering an interesting question you don’t know the answer to if you’re anticipating that you might at some point be able to resolve it. In the same way that sometimes the anticipation of a fun event can be more enjoyable than the event itself, maybe my anticipation of understanding something better can feel as good - or better - than actually reaching the understanding. It might also be that, as I become more and more aware of just how damn complicated the world is and how little I understand, those “simple” explanations feel less satisfying, because I’m harbouring some scepticism about whether they actually explain things as well as they seem to.  

But I think there’s even more to it than this. Even though arguably, a great deal of our sense of meaning comes from this making sense of things, seeing patterns, drawing connections, it feels like I get a different - perhaps deeper - sense of meaning from realising how little I understand. This deeper sense of meaning is like a kind of awe - a sudden appreciation of how incredible and incredibly complex the world is, of how little I understand, of how insignificant I am, of how much I will never understand. And somehow, weirdly, this feels good, in a “looking up at the stars and realising how crazy it is that anything exists at all” kind of way. 

I have a sense that this ability - to let go of needing to make sense of everything, to accept uncertainty without struggling with it, to embrace it and actually see it as good - is incredibly important. It’s what allows us to not get too attached to any one perspective, to be willing to reconsider our views, to listen to viewpoints we disagree with. It’s what allows us to venture out into the unknown and discover new things, to try to understand things about the world that make little or no sense to us.
 

More ways of improving decision-making

I wrote the other day about a distinction between two different ways of decision-making: trying to improve lots of small decisions via ‘nudging’ (e.g. changing the presentation of options in cafeterias so more people make healthy choices) vs. trying to improve a few, particularly high stakes decisions by training people in better decision-making techniques (e.g. training members of the National Security Council to make more accurate forecasts.)

A conversation I had the other made me realise that these examples actually highlight two important distinctions - and therefore, potentially, four different ways of thinking about improving decision-making. There’s one distinction between different methods we might use to try and improve decisions, and another distinction between different kinds of decisions we might target for improvement:

  1. Different methods: improving decisions via “nudges” vs. teaching people better decision-making strategies

  2. Different kinds of decisions: improving lots of small decisions a small amount (thousands of people eat more healthily) vs. improving a few important decisions a larger amount (govt spends important resources on more effective health interventions.)

I only focused on two possible combinations of these two variables - improving lots of small decisions via nudges, and improving a few important decisions by teaching better strategies. But the other combinations are also possible - we could try to improve decisions made by the general public via training (by teaching better decision-making strategies in schools, for example), or we could try to improve a few very important decisions via small “nudges” in key environments (by, um, putting a picture of a pair of eyes over the Prime Minister’s desk?) To make this clearer, let’s put it in a 2x2 matrix, because everyone likes those:

'Nudging' Training
Lots of small decisions Classic “behavioural insights” work - e.g. changing the wording on a letter so more people change their taxes, changing the display of food options so more people make healthy choices Adding “critical thinking” or other “rationality training” into school curricula, running workshops that help people make better decisions in their lives
A few big decisions Make relevant evidence more easily available and understandable to policymakers, create social rewards for using certain procedures Training influential decision makers (e.g. in tech companies or government) to recognise and avoid cognitive biases or other bad thinking habits

The bottom left square - trying to improve a few very important decisions by “nudges” - seems particularly interesting to me, because it’s perhaps the least obvious or least discussed. It’s not totally clear to me what “nudging” influential decision-makers - e.g. policymakers in government - would look like, but it certainly seems plausible that one could find ways to tweak the environments in which important decisions are made (by changing regulations, processes, or salient ideas/information) in ways that would result in a subtle shift of incentives, thereby really improving the quality of decisions made.

I recently wrote about improving institutional decision-making as a high impact cause area for 80,000 Hours, where I focused mostly on trying to get better decision-making techniques implemented - i.e. the bottom right cell of the above matrix. One piece of pushback I got on this was that this is incredibly difficult to do in practice, because policymakers and other influential decision-makers simply don’t have much incentive to use costly/effortful new strategies, and there are plenty of bureaucratic barriers to doing so. I agree that this is a concern, but I also wasn’t sure what on earth “changing incentives” could look like in practice. One thing it might look like, though, is nudging - making subtle changes to the environment in which decisions are made that make ‘better’ decisions easier. A huge advantage of “nudging” approaches over “training” approaches, long recognised by the behavioural science crowd, is that they don’t require much if any effort from the people whose decisions are being improved.

Of course, the fact that “nudging” often doesn’t even require awareness on the part of people whose decisions are being targeted, is also the reason it’s sometimes ethically dubious. However, I don’t think this is as much of a concern as it seems for nudging institutions towards better decisions, for a couple of reasons. First, if we’re going to try and ‘nudge’ important institutions/teams towards better decisions, those institutions/teams will presumably have to be a lot more involved in doing this than the general public are in the kinds of policy nudges currently employed. I think this doing this kind of thing would look a lot more like a few key specialists in an organisation coming up with proposals for how the organisations’ processes and environment could be subtly changed to incentivise better decisions. This would inevitably have to be approved by at least some of those who would be affected, while still not requiring much effort from them beyond that.  Second, ‘nudging’ for better decisions here would probably focus on improving the processes by which decisions are made, and building the capacity of groups to make better decisions, rather than on improving the outcomes. For example, the focus might be on making it easier for policymakers to make use of relevant evidence when making decisions, or to use certain systematic processes for assessments.

Does a good career need to tell a good story?

I’ve written before about the difference between people who like to think of their lives as a story (“narratives”), and those who see their lives more as a series of disconnected episodes (“episodics.”) 

I’ve been thinking recently about this in the context of career choices. I suspect that a lot of people think about their careers in this narrative sense - what step makes sense next, given what I’ve done so far? Where do I want to end up in 5, 10, or 20 years time, what kind of story do I want to be able to tell about what I’ve done, and how I got to where I am? 

I’ve certainly been noticing this kind of thinking in myself. I’m thinking about what to do next after my PhD, and I’ve been finding myself drawn to options that feel like a good next step in my story, while feeling some resistance to make choices that don’t seem to produce such a good narrative. I’m a bit worried about this, because I’m not sure “telling a good story” necessarily tracks that what I care about - having a career that I enjoy and that has an impact in the world. 
The best way for me to do valuable, fulfilling work might well be to do something that makes a bit less sense, that doesn’t tell such a good story. And yet I do still feel this strong pull towards doing whatever makes for a good story.

There are certainly some reasons why optimising for good storytelling could be a good way to think about your career. It helps you to sell yourself to other people, to ensure you’re developing expertise in a specific area rather than just jumping around randomly, to use and build on what you’ve learnt at each step. This all makes sense. But sometimes this can go too far - wanting to tell a good story might encourage you to stick on a path even if you don’t enjoy it anymore, or lead you to do things that will “justify” past decisions in an irrational way. Having just spent the past few years getting a PhD, I now find myself more attracted to options which require a PhD. These options would help me justify (to myself and others) why spending all that time on a PhD was clearly worth it. But this doesn’t actually make any sense. It’s great that I now have options I wouldn’t have had without a PhD, but if the very best option is something I don’t need a PhD for, it seems crazy to turn it down just for that reason. 

I worry a little bit that many people’s career choices are driven too much by the desire to tell a good story, and this prevents them from considering or choosing otherwise great options that don’t fit into such a great narrative. Maybe we can counteract this by finding ways to tell compelling, unconventional stories about not-so-neat career paths - paths that involve exploring a variety of different options and industries, combining unconventional skills, doing lots of small valuable things rather than one hugely influential thing. I’d personally like to hear more stories of people who have had careers that don’t necessarily fit together neatly, people who spent a few years doing something entirely random, but who don’t see that random thing as a mistake or a waste of time.

Relatedly, I’ve also noticed how difficult I’ve found it meeting new people while I’m exploring and figuring out what to do - because I don’t feel like I have a good story I can tell about what I’m doing now and where I’m going. I find myself trying to fit my introduction into some kind of narrative that makes sense depending on who I’m talking to and what background information they have. Maybe the biggest reason that stories are so important to us, especially when it comes to work, is that they form part of our identities. Having a neat, clear story I can tell about my life helps others to make sense of me, and perhaps even helps me to make sense of myself. But none of us fall into neat, clearly-defined identity boxes anyway - maybe it would be better if we stopped trying to.

Two ways of "improving decision-making"

People sometimes talk about “improving decision making” as a way to improve the world - if we could find ways to overcome the various ‘biases’ and ‘irrationalities’ that people are prone to, we’d be better able to solve some of the world’s most important problems. I think that there’s promise here, and I’d like more people to be focusing on this. But I also think that, as stated above, this project is too broad and vague to be tractable. I’d like to be able to say something a bit more concrete about what working on this problem might look like, and to begin with, I’ve found it helpful to distinguish between two different types of “improving decision-making.”

The idea of improving policy-making using “behavioural insights” has been gaining popularity in government over the last few years - largely due to the work of the UK Behavioural Insights Team (BIT), and other smaller groups and organisations doing similar work. (Disclaimer: I worked for BIT for ~1 year during my PhD.) The basic idea here is that we can use an understanding of behavioural science to design policies that “nudge” citizens’ behaviour in better directions: helping people to eat more healthily, save more for retirement, or get back into work quicker. By improving the design of policies that affect thousands or even millions of people, we can make the world better by improving many, many small decisions in people’s lives.

I think this work is clearly valuable, and I’m glad there’s more focus on it (setting aside potential ethical issues with governments deliberately influencing citizens’ behaviour - I think there are some legitimate worries here but in practice most of this work is defensible.) But there’s also a second way to improve decision-making, a second way of applying “behavioural insights” to improve policy, that I think might be even more valuable, and hasn’t gotten as much attention.

In addition to improving the design of specific policies, we could also apply insights from psychology to improve the processes by which policy decisions are made. Rather than trying to improve lots and lots of small decisions, we could focus our efforts on a few very high-stakes decisions, the decisions made by people in powerful positions most likely to affect humanity’s future. This might be more challenging than small nudges, but might also be much more valuable in the long-run. As technology gets more and more advanced, potential worst-case scenarios from conflict are growing in severity - with nuclear weapons, we have the ability to wipe out millions or even billions of humans, and advances in AI and biotechnology may pose new unprecedented threats. This makes the decisions of powerful institutions all the more crucial, and improving their decision-making competence all the more valuable.

These kinds of “high stakes decisions” - deciding how to respond to threats from other countries or terrorist groups, or deciding how to prioritise government’s scarce resources - are of course much more complex than the decisions most individuals make on a day-to-day basis. In the case of improving citizens’ decisions, generally it’s objectively clear what the “better” decision is (and this is part of how we defend the ethics of nudging) - people making healthier food choices, keeping more people in work, or widening participation in higher education, are all pretty uncontroversially good for society. When it comes to complex and high-stakes government decisions, it’s less often the case that people struggle to make what’s clearly the best decision - and more often that it’s incredibly difficult to know what the best decision is at all.

Perhaps it’s helpful here to additionally distinguish between two types of human irrationality. In some cases, we sort-of-know reflectively what the best decision or answer is, but short-term focused heuristics and incentives mean we fail to act accordingly - I know that I’ll feel better in the long-run if I exercise and keep my finances organised, but I often feel more motivated in the moment to spend money on fancy ice cream than to go running. But for other kinds of problems, it’s incredibly difficult for us to know what the right answer to a question or best course of action is, even reflectively, even given a lot of time to think about it. How advanced is North Korea’s nuclear weapons programme? How likely is it that there will be a nuclear attack on the US in the next two years? Part of the difficulty with answering these questions is incomplete information, of course, but there’s also the fact that our brains naturally struggle to combine large amounts of information at once, to think probabilistically, to see the implications and inferences one should draw given various different pieces of data, and so on. Even given a great deal of relevant information, and enough time for reflection, intelligent people will fail to make accurate judgements about complex problems, especially those involving predicting the future. This is largely a problem of limited cognitive ability, and so quite a different type of “irrationality.”

This means the best approaches for improving the ability of powerful institutions to make high-stakes decisions are likely to be very different from the best approaches for improving small decisions people make on a day-to-day basis. Simple nudges - making the obviously best option easier or more attractive - aren’t going to cut it. There might be some low-hanging fruit in terms of removing impediments to better decision-making: using checklists is surprisingly effective at reducing simple errors, for example. And I think continuing to push for more evidence-based policy is likely to be very valuable, which already has a fair amount of traction. But ultimately I think better institutional decision-making will be less straightforward - most of the best-established techniques from improving judgements and decisions (e.g. from the literature on forecasting and improving calibration) seem to require a fair amount of conscious effort and training on the part of decision-makers. There’s also the issue of incentives - arguably we already know a lot about how to make better decisions, and the reason they’re not used is that influential decision-makers face bureaucratic barriers and competing incentives which mean it’s not in their personal interests to do so. This means that if we want to improve decision-making e.g. at high levels of government, it’s not enough to just understand some techniques that have performed well in academic contexts - this research needs to be combined with an in-depth understanding of how bureaucracies work, and we need to find ways to align better decision-making with other incentives. To see better decision-making techniques adopted in government, I think we’ll need to find ways to show decision makers that these techniques will actually help them achieve their more immediate objectives, whatever they are. 

None of this is easy, especially compared to changing the wording on a letter to increase response rates. So it’s not surprising that people interested in improving decision-making have focused much more on simple nudges like changing the wording on a letter. But I think that psychology research actually has a lot to say about this second type of improving decision-making - improving the processes by which people make complex, high-stakes decisions where there’s no obvious “correct” answer - as long as we acknowledge the practical complexities and avoid oversimplifying the problem. I think it would be really valuable if there was more collaboration between social scientists and people actually making important decisions, and more discussion of ways we could improve the quality of the institutional decision-making. And none of this is really meant to criticise the way government currently makes decisions - I certainly don’t know enough about it! - but just to recognise that humans are imperfect, there’s always room for improvement, and focusing our effort on the highest-stakes decisions might be particularly important.
 

Dangerous drives

I really like this speech by C.S. Lewis. It’s about the tendency to form “Inner Rings” - informal groups and hierarchies, impossible to pin down precisely, but which exist everywhere - in all schools, organisations, and societies. Lewis argues that the drive to be “on the inside” of some Inner Ring is a more fundamental human drive than most people think. He also thinks it’s a dangerous one.

“Unless you take measures to prevent it, this desire is going to be one of the chief motives of your life, from the first day on which you enter your profession until the day when you are too old to care.”

Why does Lewis think this desire is so dangerous? He gives two reasons:

First, that, “of all the passions, the passion for the Inner Ring is most skillful in making a man who is not yet a very bad man do very bad things.” For almost all people, he says, the choice that might lead them down a bad path will not be an obvious or dramatic one. It will be “the hint of something which is not quite in accordance with the technical rules of fair play: something which the public, the ignorant, romantic public, would never understand...” It will be something which, a friend tells you, “we always do.” And even if something feels a bit off, you might ignore that feeling and do it anyway, because if you were to refuse, you’d feel thrown out - no longer part of that “we”, thrust out of that Inner Ring you so desperately want to be part of.

The second reason Lewis gives is subtler - but I think perhaps all the more dangerous. For “as long as you are governed by that desire,” Lewis cautions, “you will never get what you want... until you conquer the fear of being an outsider, an outsider you will remain.” If you seek recognition within a group simply for the sake of the boost you get from being an “insider” - and not because that group provides you with something you value - then you will never be satisfied. Once you’re “in”, the circle will quickly lose the charm it had from the outside. You’ll soon find some new, smaller, more alluring, or higher-status clique to pine after.

So what’s the alternative?

“The quest of the Inner Ring will break your heart unless you break it. But if you break it, a surprising result will follow. If in your working hours you make the work your end, you will presently find yourself all unawares inside the only circle in your profession that really matters. You will be one of the sound craftsmen, and other sound craftsmen will know it.

And if in your spare time you consort simply with the people you like, you will again find that you have come unawares to a real inside: that you are indeed snug and safe at the center of something which, seen from without, would look exactly like an Inner Ring. But the difference is that its secrecy is accidental, and its exclusiveness a by-product, and no one was led thither by the lure of the esoteric: for it is only four or five people who like one another meeting to do things that they like. This is friendship.”

I think, more generally, we have motives that point at things we actually value, and motives that are more illusory - and the latter can be dangerously alluring. We’re driven to impress, achieve, make money, acquire status, be on “the inside” of a particular group. These things feel good, especially in the short-term, but they’re deceptive - they’re never really satisfied, and we’ll just keep chasing them. These drives can be harmful, as Lewis suggests, because they can lead not-bad people to do bad things. But I think the even greater harm of these drives is that they distract us from what actually matters - the drive to be impressive distracts us from actually getting good at something, the drive to be “on the inside” gets in the way of forming genuinely rewarding relationships.

It seriously worries me how much of the time most of us spend chasing things like achievement, status, recognition - and how little we spend thinking about what we actually value: what we’d find rewarding in a job, what kinds of people make us feel good, what we really want in a relationships. It’s easy, in a sense, to just go after the job that makes the most money, the friendship group that makes us look coolest, the partner who is most attractive. Asking ourselves what we actually want and value in life, and then trying to find that, is much harder.

Aphorisms

A while back a friend introduced me to Vectors by James Richardson - a nice little book of aphorisms and very short essays. He's a wise guy, I think (both Richardson and my friend :)). Here are a few that I especially liked:

Later you will not want it. Does that mean you should take it now, or let it go?

I trick myself into sins I could not forgive myself for intending. If I could depend on myself for a little mercy, I would perhaps not have grown so expert in the self-deception that makes it so difficult minute to minute to know what I am really doing.

You keep track of your worth on some wildly cyclic stock market that will soar in fantasy, crash at a cold glance. Other people think you never change.

Say too soon what you think and you will say what everyone else thinks.

More dangerous than the worst is the pretty good you can no longer tell from the best.

So many times I've made myself stupid with the fear of being outsmarted.

I am not unambitious. I am just too ambitious for what you call ambitions.

The days are exactly alike in that they repeat nothing exactly.

I'm sitting here bored, trying to understand. No: trying to remember that everything is a mystery.

My favourite books of 2016

Ok, so this is a bit late - but here are three books that really stood out for me last year. Part of the reason I've delayed this post is I wanted to write in more detail about each of these books, but since I haven't gotten round to that, I at least wanted to briefly share these:

1. Impro -- Keith Johnstone

A book about theatre and improvisation that's about so much more than theatre and improvisation - a book about social interaction and identity, how we perceive ourselves and others, and the things that constrain us. I found this incredibly dense with insights and wisdom - I'm not sure I've ever highlighted/commented in a book so much, or so strongly felt I needed to read a book multiple times to even begin to make the most of it. Keith Johnstone's TED talk is also excellent - definitely my favourite TED talk ever.

I don't even really know where to begin explaining what I got from this book , and I hope to write more about it at some point. I think the biggest thing for me was just realising how much I'm holding back all the time out of fear of being judged, how afraid I am to express myself, of doing the wrong thing, of allowing myself to look silly.

Thanks to Uri Bram for buying this book for me years ago, and somehow knowing it was exactly what I needed well before I was able to see it myself. I somehow couldn't get into it until this year - I think I just wasn't quite in the right place. 

2. I Am A Strange Loop -- Douglas Hofstadter

This is the book Hofstadter wrote years after Godel, Escher, Bach - in response to the fact he felt no-one really got what he was trying to say with GEB (despite the fact it was so popular.) I'm actually only reading GEB now, after having read this - I figured that if Strange Loop was supposed to be a clearer exposition of Hofstadter's ideas, it made sense to read it first. I feel like this was a good decision - I enjoyed it even more than I expected to, and I think I'm finding GEB easier to get into now - I tried reading it a few years ago and it somehow just didn't grab me enough.

I think part of the reason I liked this book so much is it really pushes all my nerd buttons. I've always been fascinated by philosophical questions of consciousness and identity, as well as really enjoying mathematical logic and weird semantic paradoxes and self-reference. These had always seemed quite separate to me - so someone coming along and proposing to link them together, to explain consciousness using logic and self-reference, feels so satisfying to me. Hofstadter is also just an excellent, engaging writer - I think he uses stories and analogies in a really skilful way to make tricky concepts accessible and engaging.

I don't necessarily think Hofstadter manages to crack consciousness completely - but he certainly gave me a different way of thinking about it that I find really useful. Again, hope to write more about this at some point...

3. The Center Cannot Hold -- Elyn Saks

I got really into reading autobiographies this year - particularly memoirs of mental illness. This was my favourite: an autobiography of a woman with schizophrenia. Something I really enjoy when reading is feeling like I'm getting to understand a totally different perspective (which I think is why I've enjoyed autobiographies so much.) I particularly enjoy memoirs of mental illness just because they give me insight into the different ways that people struggle - it's not even that they're about mental illness per se, but just some ways in which the author has found life difficult. I like the honesty and openness that comes with this kind of writing, and I find it helpful to hear others acknowledge just how difficult it is to be human sometimes.

I particularly loved this book, I think, because (a) I knew very little about schizophrenia before, so it was really interesting to learn about, and (b) I was surprised just how... identifiable a lot of the author's experiences sounded, despite the fact I've never experienced anything close to psychotic symptoms. Hearing someone describe how they ended up sitting on a floor in a mental hospital just rocking back and forth moaning for days on end, and thinking, I can totally see how she ended up there, made me extra-aware of just how grey the line between "mentally healthy" and "mentally ill" really is. It made me more aware of how fragile the mind is and how fragile our grip on reality can be. Our brains are generally very good at making sense of the world, of filtering out nonsense, of organising our experiences in a coherent way. I think we take for granted how much hard work is going on here, and it's just not that surprising to me that sometimes these things can break down. So much of what Saks describes just sounds to me like these basic abilities failing in small ways - her brain struggling to filter out what's irrelevant, to zone out silly thoughts that make sense, to organise reality in a neat way. And it just doesn't seem that weird or surprising to me that this could happen - which in turn I think makes 'madness' look much less mad.

Thanks to Kate Donovan for the recommendation!

(I'm conscious of not wanting to sound like I'm oversimplifying schizophrenia - I'm aware I still really have no idea what causes psychosis or what it feels like - but this is just the impression I took from this book.)

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I've also found it interesting to notice myself drawing connections between these three books, despite the fact they seem really different on the surface. On some level, they're all about how we organise and make sense of the world, and particularly how we conceptualise ourselves. Strange Loop is about where our sense of identity comes from - how this arises from our ability to abstract away from the basic elements of reality, forming higher-level concepts including a concept of ourselves - and how the weird feedback loop this creates (my perception of myself feeds back into the things that I think and do which then feed back into my perception of myself...) may help explain what gives rise to conscious experience.

A lot of what I took from Impro had to do with how this ability to perceive ourselves, and think about how others might perceive us, can constrain us. A lot of what improvisation is aiming to do seems to be teaching people to 'let go' of a maintaining a certain self-image, or the need to organise reality in certain neat ways. 

The image of schizophrenia I took from The Center Cannot Hold seems to say something about what happens when the brain's basic abilities to organise and make sense of the world aren't able to function properly: when the brain struggles to organise everything in a coherent manner, when it struggles to maintain a stable self-image, when it can't quite filter out what's relevant from what isn't. All of this just makes me aware of how crucial and yet fragile these abilities are, and how much we take them for granted.

Enough

When I go for a long run, often I find the latter parts much easier than the beginning. This seems strange in a way: you'd think that as my body got more tired, it would become more of a struggle. But it's not really about how my body feels at all - my mindset is much more important. When I've been running for half an hour or so, my mindset shifts. I feel like what I've already done is enough, that I could stop right now and still feel I'd done a decent run. Strangely, this makes it much easier to continue, because anything I do beyond this point is a bonus. With the feeling of having done enough, a lot of pressure and anxiety I didn't even acknowledge I was putting on myself is lifted. I'm no longer worrying that I might get too tired: I'm already tired, but it's ok. I'm not counting the minutes until I can say I've reached a reasonable time. I just run, one stride at a time, and start to enjoy the rhythm of it. 

I think this tendency is pervasive in other areas of my life too, especially work: a feeling of anxiety about whether I'm doing "enough" gets in the way of my natural motivation to do things. It's common for me to worry about whether I'm being productive enough, working enough hours, getting through enough tasks. I'll often have a specific goal in mind I feel I need to meet in order to be satisfied, and until I reach that point, my motivation is coming primarily from a place of anxiety. Fear that if I don't keep going and reach a certain point I'll feel a failure, my day wasted. But once I get to the point of "enough", I can let go - and ironically, it's often then that I do my best work. It's often then that I really enjoy what I'm doing, and feel better able to identify and focus on what's important. 

It’s when I’ve already met all my goals for the day that I feel like I want to get ahead for tomorrow. It’s when I’ve already written a blog post for the day that all these other ideas I want to write about start streaming in. It’s when I’ve already been to the gym in the morning and ticked off my “exercise” goal for the day that I really feel like going for a swim in the evening.

It’s like all of this anxiety about whether I can meet a given standard is getting in the way of my intrinsic motivation to do things. I’ve realised recently how even things I genuinely want to do can end up feeling aversive, like a burden on me – because my brain quickly and naturally develops a feeling of “should” around any goal I set myself. It feels like this stems from a deep, vague, fear that I’m somehow not good enough – not until I’ve worked enough hours, run far enough, achieved enough.

I wonder what it would feel like not to have this – to simply wake up and feel like I’ve already met this standard of ‘enough’, to always feel free to do things because I want to, because they feel important – not because I should

It’s interesting to ask where this bar for what’s “enough” comes from, and what might shift it. I think it's partly influenced by societal norms and culture. When I was working an office job, for example, I started to internalise the idea that as long as I sat at my desk doing vaguely productive work from 9 til 6ish, I was doing enough. That’s what others around me were doing, and what they thought was enough, after all. Doing a PhD, there’s risk that it never feels like I'm doing enough – there’s always something else that needs doing, my incomplete thesis looming in my mind. And the more I spend time around super ambitious and hardworking people, the higher my standards for what’s 'enough' get. I find myself frequently asking: what do I imagine [absurdly-competent-and-productive-person] would do in this situation, how high would their bar be?

My standards also shift as my expectations for myself change, based on what seems 'good' for me at the moment. Having struggled with motivation a bit recently, I got to the point where even managing a couple of good productive hours a day felt ‘enough’ – because that was the best I’d been achieving recently. But as soon as I had a few good days, my standards started to rise – and suddenly what had been good enough a few days ago no longer was. In a sense, the fact that my concept of what’s enough shifts so easily, and is so relative, should be enough to convince me that it’s not really rooted in anything real – nothing beyond my own self-judgement.

I so badly want to live more of my life in a state of ‘enoughness’, where my motivation comes  from things I genuinely care about and want to do, not fear of failing to live up to some standard. The anxiety I feel when I’m scared I might not do enough is what so often gets in the way of achieving more. The anxiety that I might get tired before I’ve run enough is most of what makes the running unpleasant and hard, which is what makes me want to stop. The anxiety that I might not be able to finish a project to a good enough standard, or fast enough, is what makes me procrastinate. I've sometimes said to friends that I know I could achieve so much more if I wasn't doubting myself all the time.

I don’t really know yet how to deal with this, to be honest. The short-term solution is to try and set low standards for what’s ‘enough’, and find ways to make sure I can meet them. For example, I’ve recently been starting work earlier in the day before doing other things, so that I end up feeling like I’ve done ‘enough’ earlier in the day – and sooner get to a place where I’m free from that pressure.

But this really feels like just a bandaid: working effectively within the constraints of feeling not good enough, while continuing to feed the feeling. Maybe it's naive, but I do believe that I could free myself from these constraints entirely: completely lose the anxiety, the self-judgement, the feeling that I’m not good enough until I’ve achieved enough. I don't like waking up every day thinking I need to prove myself. Perhaps the biggest barrier is the fact that part of me is still afraid: afraid that if I let go of the anxiety and pressure, I might just not achieve anything. I'm scared that if I find some way to feel good enough without achieving anything, then, well - I might not amount to anything. And maybe that wouldn't be enough.

Questioning yourself

Sometimes the most useful ‘advice’ someone else can give you isn’t advice at all - it’s asking you the right question. Good questions can help alert you to things you already knew but hadn’t quite seen the implications of, help you to consider a different angle on a problem, or simply help you better structure your thinking.

As I suggested in my last post, often when we’re struggling with a problem or a decision, what we need isn’t other people’s opinions exactly. Instead, what we need is help making sense of everything we already know, help figuring out how to balance our own conflicting intuitions and feelings. And a good question can really help to do this, to re-orient your thinking.

But of course, it’s not only other people who can ask you questions - you can also question yourself! I think it often doesn’t occur to us to explicitly question ourselves, because it feels a bit strange. There’s this sense we have, that if we could ask ourselves a question and answer it, then we should be able to jump straight to the answer. Since all of this is going on within the confines of our own minds, the idea of being able to 'uncover' something we didn't already know can intuitively seem a bit odd.

But our minds aren’t totally transparent to us. This isn’t some deep Freudian-esque claim about unconscious motivations and desires. It’s just a fact that our brains can only hold, and process, a limited amount of information and considerations at once - we can’t immediately see the logical consequences of everything we believe, or see which of our beliefs are inconsistent with one another. We don’t even really know what we’re feeling, or why, a lot of the time. But in some sense, all of this information is there for us to access, and asking the right questions can help us to do this.

Realising this, I’ve started collecting together lists of questions that I might find it helpful to ask myself in different scenarios: when I’m struggling with a decision; when I’ve lost motivation and don’t know why; when I’m setting goals; when I’m feeling low for no clear reason. Part of the reason other people can often ask us better questions than we can ask ourselves is they have a different perspective. Sometimes when you’re in the throes of a tricky problem it’s sometimes hard to think clearly enough about what you need to ask yourself (especially if you’re also experiencing difficult emotions.) So it seems really useful to have a bank of questions prepared in advance that you can turn to in these moments, when you're not really sure where to turn next.

I’ve started collecting some questions like this here - feel free to take a look and suggest additions, I’d love to hear what other people feel are the most useful questions they ask themselves or have been asked by others.

Of course, these questions are fairly general, and often the most useful question for a given problem is something quite specific to the scenario. So perhaps the most useful question you can get into the habit of asking yourself is, “What’s the most useful question I could be asking myself right now?”

 

Asking for advice

I’m lucky enough to have a lot of friends who I think are very smart, thoughtful and have good judgement (of course, I’m biased.) This means that whenever I have a problem or a decision I’m struggling to make, I instinctively want to ask lots of different people I know for advice. I also sometimes find that my friends think I might be able to help them solve their problems, and so they ask me for advice.

I’ve been thinking about what makes advice helpful - both so I can get the most out of advice from others for my own problems, and so I can be as helpful as possible to other people. When asking for advice from others, I think there are three main things I might be looking for:

  1. Factual information/knowledge. Sometimes the reason I’m struggling to make a decision on something is just that I’m missing a key piece of information, and someone I know might just be able to give me that information because they’re more knowledgeable on a topic than I am.

  2. Help structuring the problem.  Sometimes what I need isn’t information, but simply help thinking through the different considerations and information I already have. Other people can help with this because it can be easier to think clearly about a problem that isn’t your own, or because they might have experience with a similar problem themselves and found a useful way to think about it. A similar thing I’d put in this category is help thinking through the relevant considerations - sometimes someone else will alert me to an important question or factor I wasn’t already thinking about (which is importantly different from giving me a piece of factual information or knowledge I didn’t already have.)

  3. Actual opinions. Sometimes what you want is just to tell a bunch of different people about the dilemma you’re facing, and then ask them what they think: what would they do in this situation, or what do they think you should do?

If you’re asking someone for advice, it can be really important to be clear on which of these three things you’re looking for (of course, you might want two or even three of these things.) This helps you to clarify where your uncertainty lies on the problem - is it that you think you’re lacking specific knowledge, do you need help thinking through the problem more clearly, or do you just want to know what this person’s opinion is? This can also help the other person, and avoid a situation where you really want one thing and they assume you’re looking for something completely different - e.g. you’re looking for help structuring the problem but they’re giving you lots of factual information you actually think is irrelevant, or them giving you their opinion when it’s not helpful/wanted.

But the main  point I want to make is that, when we think of asking for advice, I think we default to thinking of it in terms of 3. - we’re looking for other people’s opinions, to then help us form our own judgement. But I actually think this is the least useful and most difficult to deal with of the above three.

A problem I frequently come up against is this: I have a decision to make, and I talk to several different people about it, asking for their opinions. Inevitably, I get conflicting advice from different people, which puts me in a bit of a bind. If one smart, thoughtful person thinks I should definitely do A, and another smart, thoughtful person thinks I definitely shouldn’t do A, what should I do? Should I somehow try and weigh their opinions based on their relative smart-ness and thoughtful-ness? Should I go and ask a bunch more people for advice on how they deal with conflicting advice from other people...?

It’s hard for me know what to do with someone’s opinion - and how much weight to give it relative to other opinions - if I don’t know the process that led them to it, what assumptions were made, what information they had. I don’t know how to resolve disagreement in opinions between two people, and therefore who to agree with, if I don’t know exactly where their disagreement lies.

So if you want to integrate different people’s opinions, you really need to know (a) what process/structure they’re using for thinking about the problem, and (b) what assumptions they’re making and what information they do and don’t have. But then, you’d be better off focusing directly on these things - asking other people to help you structure your thinking around the problem, challenge the assumptions you’re making, suggest additional considerations, and give you any factual information you might be missing. That is, when asking people for ‘advice’ - to help you make decisions - it seems much more useful to explicitly ask people for help structuring the decision, or to point out considerations or bits of information you might be missing - than to ask them for their ‘opinion.’

This also lessens the pressure on advice-givers. If you think that someone wants you to tell them what they should do with their life, that can feel pretty daunting! If instead what they want is just someone to help structure the problem clearly, or your knowledge on a specific part of the issue, it’s a lot easier to know how to be helpful.


I think sometimes when I start asking people for their opinions - rather than help thinking through the decision myself, or additional information - I’m actually looking for reassurance more than anything else. Dealing with uncertainty can be scary, and sometimes I’d like to outsource the difficulty of it to someone else, so I can absolve myself from the responsibility and pressure of it. But of course, when I get conflicting suggestions from difficult people, this just puts me back in charge and often in a position of even greater uncertainty. I’d be better off taking more responsibility for the decision myself - accepting the uncertainty, doing my best to navigate it myself, getting support from others around me - not trying to pass the uncertainty onto someone else. 

What makes writing hard?

A lot of people say they find writing hard. But what exactly makes writing so difficult? Just putting random words on paper is easy. What’s difficult is turning those words into sentences that really express the ideas you’re trying to convey. When we talk about difficulty writing, we often say that “the words aren’t coming out right” - we’ll write a sentence, and then delete it because we don’t like how it sounds, then sit staring at a blank piece of paper not knowing how to re-write it.

Writing is all about communicating ideas to others. This means that a really key aspect of writing, before you even get to putting pen to paper (or more often, fingers to keyboard), is figuring out exactly the ideas you want to communicate.

I think it’s useful to explicitly distinguish two different stages of the writing process:

  1. Figuring out yourself what ideas you want to express, and making sure those points are clear in your own mind;

  2. Working on communicating those ideas to others - how to do so clearly, how to keep the reader engaged, perhaps how to evoke certain emotions in your reader, etc.

This might sound obvious. And technically speaking, only 2. is ‘writing’. But I think learning to do 1. well is a vital part of being a good writer. If the ideas you want to express aren’t even clear in your own mind, how on earth are you supposed to communicate them to others?

Based on this, I’ve recently tried distinguishing two very different types of writing. The first type is writing I do to clarify my own ideas: I’m putting words onto paper without worrying how they look,  expressing ideas in the order they come to me rather than the order that I’d want someone to read them. This is “stream-of-consciousness-style” writing: the kind of writing I do when I’m writing in a journal, or when writing a quick email explaining something to a friend. The second type of writing is writing I do to express those ideas to others: I’m taking already-clarified ideas and thinking about how to structure and present them in a clear and engaging way. This is “presentation-style” writing. With stream-of-consciousness-writing, I do very little editing or backtracking. Presentation-style writing, by contrast, involves multiple stages of revisions: first, I get the basic ideas down as clearly as possible, then I review it and think about how to edit those words and change the structure to make it clearer and more engaging.

I think that one reason many people find writing so hard is that they miss step 1. entirely. They’re trying to do “presentation-style” writing, when really what they need to be doing is “stream-of-consciousness-style” writing. It’s really hard to focus on both the content of what you’re expressing, and how that content is presented at the same time. So if you’re spending attention thinking about presentation, you’re going to have much less left over for thinking about content. The idea behind stream-of-consciousness-style writing is that you forget about presentation temporarily, so that you can focus all of your attention on the content of what you want to express.

Most writing advice focuses on presentation-style writing: how to communicate ideas through writing clearly and engagingly. But actually, in my experience, the actual process of writing is relatively easy if you do step 1. right - if you’re really clear what ideas you want to communicate. Or at very least, doing step 1. well makes the actual writing part a lot easier. It might not turn you into a literary genius, but it makes it a lot easier to express what you want to say clearly, which you can then build on.

When I had to write essays at university, I’d spend the bulk of my time on “planning” - scribbling ideas down with pen and paper to figure out exactly what points I wanted to make, and then making detailed notes on how I wanted to structure and present those ideas. Once I’d done that, the actual writing was easy - it was just a matter of stringing those ideas together into sentences. People would be impressed when I said I could write a 2,000 word essay in not much over an hour - but what they were missing was how much preparation had gone in before this point.

A lot of the time, I think that when people say they find writing difficult, what they’re struggling with isn’t creating evocative and beautiful prose from simple language. What they’re struggling with is expressing their ideas in simple language in the first place.

Just to get really meta, here’s the process I used to write this blog post:

  1. First, I spent somewhere between half and hour and an hour on stream of consciousness-style writing: literally just writing words onto paper in the order they came into my head to figure out what ideas I wanted to express. If I found myself not knowing what to write at any point, I just wrote that.

  2. I then went over the output of stage 1. and made notes on how I wanted to structure the ideas in order to best communicate them to someone else.

  3. I then sat down to write this post, writing with more awareness of how I was presenting my ideas to others. This stage itself was made up of two stages: a first pass, where I simply took my notes and expanded them into prose, and a second pass, where I went through what I’d written and edited it.

In total, I spent not much over 2 hours on this - which is quicker than I’ve written most of my blog posts. Of course, the amount of time you want to spend on each stage - braindumping ideas, structuring them, turning that structure into prose, and then editing it - is going to depend on the style and importance of what you’re writing. But I think step 1 - figuring out ideas, stream-of-consciousness-style, is pretty much vital in any case. In fact, if you want to write something quickly, I think you’re much better off cutting back on the later stages - worrying less about editing your stream-of-consciousness writing - than skipping stage 1.

If I can get over my perfectionism enough, I’m going to try publishing more posts on my blog that I’ve written almost entirely in stream-of-consciousness-style, with minimal editing. I really want to write more, and the reason I don’t is that it takes too much time. I’d like to have time to edit each post into something beautiful and coherent, but given that’s not realistic, I’d definitely rather share my ideas - even if they’re not formed into perfect prose - than nothing.

Sometimes, the boundary between writing-to-clarify-ideas and writing-as-presentation gets blurry. You might be be doing the former and find you have a new idea while writing - and then it may make sense to switch styles. This sort of happened to me a couple of paragraphs back - I hadn’t planned the point about the idea-clarification stage being the most important, but it made sense to me as I was writing, so I decided to go off-piste a little. This then led me to the idea in this paragraph - that sometimes you want to be able to switch a bit between the two.

Finally, in my experience, by far the hardest part of writing is just getting those first words onto the page. Once you’ve got a first draft down - even if it’s a mess - it’s much easier to edit it into something coherent. There’s something very psychologically daunting about a blank sheet (/word doc.) And so perhaps the most useful thing about breaking writing down into two stages - first clarifying your ideas, and then figuring out how best to present them - is it makes that initial “getting words onto paper” much less daunting. Trying to start from scratch and produce a masterpiece is never going to happen, and accepting that your first draft is likely to be far from perfect is incredibly useful.

I should caveat that I know writing is a different process for different people, so what works well for me might not necessarily work for you - and similarly, what I find hard about writing might not apply to everyone. But it seems likely enough that this idea would help other people that it was worth sharing. If you think your experience of writing is similar, I’d be really interested to hear that - but if you think it isn’t, and there’s something else about writing you find hard which this doesn’t help with, I’d be really interested to hear that too!

My favourite books of 2015

In no particular order - some of the books I most enjoyed reading, and learned the most from, in 2015. I've linked to notes I made on some of these books where I have them (some may be clearer and more concise than others!) 

I'm looking for book recommendations for 2016, so would love to hear what others' favourite books of 2015 were!

  1. Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind -- Yuval Harari (notes)
    For me reading this book was so densely packed with "oh, that's a really interesting idea/hypothesis/explanation, I should think about that more" moments, more so than any other book I’ve read in a long time. Some of the ideas feel a bit speculative, but are incredibly thought-provoking all the same. I feel like I need to reread it at least another 5 times to even begin to get the most out of it. 

  2. The Power of Less -- Leo Babauta (notes)
    A very clear and concise guide to simplifying your life and your commitments, with lots of actionable advice, by the author of the Zen Habits blog. I ended up using a lot of this and finding it incredibly helpful when I was trying to cut down and simplify things in my life this time next year, and I look back at my notes on it every time I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed or overcommitted.

  3. Moonwalking with Einstein: The Art and Science of Remembering Everything -- Joshua Foer  (notes)
    Written by a journalist who took on the challenge of becoming a memory grandmaster in just a year. This book really convinced me that improving your memory isn’t about just being able to memorise obscure facts - it actually has the potential to improve your life in very profound ways - making the things you’ve learned and experienced more easily accessible and easier to draw connections between. (This was also one of those books I found got the perfect balance between telling me facts/making its point clear, and using good stories and analogies to illustrate these points. I think this is one of the biggest challenges for good nonfiction writing - often I feel like stories and analogies are just there as padding, and I want to skip them and get to the point - but a few really skillful writers, like Foer, manage to use these illustrations to much more clearly drill in the point they’re making.)

  4. The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking -- Oliver Burkeman
    I really enjoy Oliver Burkeman’s Guardian column - he seems to manage to do popular psychology in a way that’s engaging without being overly sensationalised, which isn't always easy. This book - about embracing negative emotions, failure, uncertainty, and even death - solidified for me a lot of ideas I’d been thinking about previously about happiness. I got that satisfying feeling reading it of someone else expressing my own thoughts more clearly than I could have done myself.

  5. On The Move: A Life -- Oliver Sacks
    I was incredibly sad and moved when I read the famous neurologist and author’s NYT column earlier in the year, sharing that he’d been diagnosed with a terminal cancer. I’ve really enjoyed some of his other writings - a unique combination of sharing scientific insights through personal stories and case studies - and found this memoir engagingly written, thought-provoking and inspiring. 

  6. Do No Harm: Stories of Life, Death, and Brain Surgery -- Henry Marsh
    An incredibly compelling account of what it’s like to be a brain surgeon. Probably the most “un-put-down-able” book I read this year. It’s difficult to read at times, but in a good way - I felt like I really got some, albeit small, insight into the extreme pressure, stresses, and emotions involved in neurosurgery. Thanks Killian Czuba for this recommendation, I loved this book, but probably would have never found it or picked it up myself.

  7. Being Mortal: Illness, Medicine and What Matters in the End -- Atul Gawande
    A really great, if somewhat depressing, discussion of the problematic way in which the medical profession tends to deal with old age - so obsessed with ‘treatment’ and extending life without enough focus on how to maximise quality of life in the final years.

  8. How to Think About Exercise -- Damon Young
    As someone who spends most of her time in “thinking” mode, but who also gets a lot of pleasure out of exercise, I really enjoyed this discussion of the ways in which exercise relates to various intellectual ‘virtues’. In parts I felt the book went into more discussion of specific historical philosophers than I personally cared for, but the overriding themes and insights helped me to think more about why I exercise and how I can use exercise to become a better person, beyond simply staying in shape.

  9. The Code Book: The Secret History of Codes and Code Breaking -- Simon Singh
    I read Simon Singh’s book Fermat’s Last Theorem years ago - before I started university - and absolutely loved it. I’d been meaning to read this - another very popular book of his about cryptography - for years, and finally got round to it this year. I found it similarly fascinating, though I much preferred the later chapters of the book, which get into explaining some of the more recent and complex cryptography methods like public key encryption and quantum cryptography (the chapter on the latter inspired a brief fascination with quantum physics - but even after reading a couple of popular books on the topic I admit I’m still basically clueless.)

  10. The Obstacle is The Way: The Ancient Art of Turning Adversity to Advantage -- Ryan Holiday
    I was unsure whether to include this book in my 'favourites' list, because I didn’t actually finish it - I felt it got a bit repetitive after a while, and I’d sort of got most of what I needed out of it after a few chapters. But I found the core message - the Stoic idea that inside every difficult emotion and challenging situation there is an amazing opportunity to learn and improve - so useful to internalise, I still felt I wanted to recommend this book. Reminding myself of this idea is the single thing that most consistently helps me deal with tough situations and emotions.

Some new year's reflections

  • I really like taking some time around the new year to do step back and review: to reflect on the past year and what I’d like to improve. I highly recommend taking the time to do this if you can - not just setting resolutions, but reflecting more systematically on how different areas of your life are going, what you’ve achieved and learned over the past year, and what you might do differently. I’ve shared it before, but again, Alex Vermeer has a really great guide to doing this here.

  • Thinking about all the ways in which I could improve my life, though, I have to constantly remind myself to prioritise and take one thing at a time. When I do these reviews, I start out really excited about all the things I could change or improve in my life, but then begin to feel overwhelmed with all the possibilities, which can quickly turn into me feeling unmotivated by all the areas of my life I’m not fixing right now. There are too many things I could be doing, and I don’t know where to start - so I end up doing none of them. The solution is sort of obvious - when overwhelmed with possibilities, prioritise - but I find it really hard to do, because it means letting go of things I really want to do but aren't highest-priority-right-now. Really internalising this was perhaps the single thing that resulted in me making way more improvements to my life last year than I’d ever done in previous years. Each month, I chose a single area of my life - e.g. exercise, diet, social life - or one specific goal - e.g. simplify my life and get rid of unnecessary commitments - and focused on just doing that one thing really well. And ironically, the sense of self-efficacy I got from seeing concrete improvements in one area of my life actually meant I often ended up making more other improvements than I’d planned.

  • If you are setting new year’s resolutions, here’s something I wrote last year with some psychology-based tips on how to set resolutions you’ll actually keep. In short: only choose goals you actually care about and genuinely believe you can achieve, use “implementation intentions” to help behaviours occur more automatically, change your environment to make a behaviour easier, think in advance about possible failure modes and how to avoid them, and set a time later to check in on your progress. The main thing I’d add to this now is to set a couple of really important goals rather than lots and lots of smaller ones (see second bullet!), and to be aware that ‘failure’, at least to a certain extent, is inevitable and an important part of the process of improving

  • My favourite insight of 2016 so fardon’t ask yourself what you want out of life, but what you’re willing to struggle for/what struggles you’re willing to undergo. Another way of putting this is that, for anything you think you want in life, it’s important to make sure you actually want to undergo the process involved in achieving that thing - including the costs and struggles. From the linked article: "If you want the beach body, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten thousand."

  • A question I've found amazingly useful to ask myself: “What would the best version of myself do right now?” I'm always surprised how much this helps me clarify what I should do at any given time, and helps me to live more in line with what I most care about. “What would make me most proud of myself?” has a similar effect. It's surprising to me because it's often immediately obvious what the "best" version of myself would do - but that's often not the thing I would do if just acting based on my immediate inclinations. I think this is related to why it can be easier to give others advice than ourselves - sometimes we just need to step back from the situation and whatever we're feeling in the immediate moment to get some perspective. (Inspiration from Brian Johnson's notion of "the integrity gap")

  • I think I’ve underestimated just how important it is to get the really ‘essential’ elements of my life really sorted, before tackling other challenges. For me, this means getting enough good quality sleep, and getting enough exercise. I think I haven’t prioritised these enough in the past, despite knowing that sleep and exercise are clearly the things that account for most of the variance in my happiness. Asking yourself what those areas are for you that make a big difference to everything else, and making sure you’re doing everything you can in those areas, is one of those pieces of advice that sounds so obvious but very few people actually follow.

  • People spend a lot of time trying to find ways to extend their lives - eating certain kinds of food, taking certain supplements, exercising in ways that are suggested might make you live longer. I'm all for doing these things, but I think it's also worth thinking about ways you can make your subjective experience of your life longer: key things like living more mindfully and deliberately, building more variety into your days, and finding ways to make your experiences more memorable. Though these things won't technically "extend" the amount of time you live for, in my experience focusing on them makes me feel like my life passes more slowly (in a good way!) and that, in retrospect, I've been living it more fully. And in many ways, I think this might be worth more than an extra year of life that passes by in a blur

  • If I’m going to publicly commit to one new year’s resolution, it’s that I want to write more - and not write to get my name in publications, but write to explore ideas, and share those ideas with others who may have other insights. The biggest barrier for me to doing that more is being less perfectionist with my writing, and being willing to leave questions unanswered. Each of the bullets here could have been it’s own blog post, and it’s taking a lot of self-restraint for me to post this without going into more depth and answering more questions - but I know realistically the alternative is me publishing nothing. So watch this space for more imperfect blog posts...

The problem with compliments

In general, I think giving people compliments is great, and most of us don’t do anywhere near enough of it. It’s easy to assume that other people know what their strengths are, or that they know that we like them, and think it’d be weird to tell them explicitly why we think they’re great. But most of us are less sure of these things than we tend to admit, and giving someone a piece of genuine, positive feedback can really make their day (as well as making them like you more!) This said, I think there are also risks involved in giving people positive feedback, and each of us should be careful about the kindof compliments we give other people.

Getting complimented on something can feel very rewarding, which is great – but like any reward, it’s likely to reinforce the behaviour that led to that reward. This isn’t a revolutionary idea – it’s psychology 101 – but I feel like most of us don’t think enough about how this applies to our interactions with other people. Getting complimented on any aspect of how you come across – whether it’s your hair, your sharp wit, or your writing skills – incentivises you to do the things that are likely to lead you to get more compliments on that thing – like spend more time doing your hair in the morning, constantly cracking jokes, or spend more time writing. The better the compliment makes you feel, the more motivated you’re going to be to seek more compliments like it. This can create a feedback loop: you get compliments on your hair, so you spend more time styling it, thus get more compliments on it… and before you know it, you’re spending three hours a day in front of a mirror.

I think this means that we should be very careful not to compliment people too much on traits that we don’t think are valuable in themselves, or that might encourage behaviours that aren’t actually good for that person. The classic example of this is complimenting people on their appearance. It’s always nice to hear someone thinks you look good – but the downside is that it may incentivise you to spend more time and effort on your appearance, and to care more about how people think you look than other things, which for many people can be harmful. I’m obviously not suggesting we should never tell people they look attractive, but it seems important to be aware that doing so too much (especially in the absence of compliments on other things), is likely to increase the extent to which that person’s self-esteem is tied to their appearance.

The upside of this, of course, is that complimenting people on things we think are valuable in themselves, or we think they’d really benefit from spending more time and effort on, can be beneficial – since it helps motivate people to improve in those ways.  The extent to which your positive feedback affects someone is obviously going to depend on a lot of different factors: how sensitive that person is to social feedback/pressures in general, how much they care about your feedback, and the way you give it. So the more sensitive to social approval you think someone is, and the more you think they care about your opinion, the more careful you should be about the kind of compliments you give.

It also means that we should be careful about the kinds of compliments we seek from others, and try to be aware of how positive feedback might be affecting our behaviour. Most of us don’t actively seek compliments by asking for them often, but we are often doing so in a more passive way. No matter what they say, basically everyone cares at least somewhat about what other people think or them. So even if you don’t realise it, you’re going to be motivated to act in ways you think the people around you are likely to respond positively to. It’s really useful, therefore, to notice and stop ourselves if we find ourselves seeking approval from others in ways that don’t actually fit with the kind of person we want to be – if you find yourself trying to impress someone by being loud and funny in a way that you don’t actually like, for example.

I think I’m particularly interested in this because I’m personally very sensitive to social feedback. I think this has advantages and disadvantages – it can give me a lot of motivation to improve in useful ways. But ideally, I want my behaviour to be guided by reflective thought about the kind of person I want to be, which feels much more robust and likely to track what I actually care about than being overly responsive to the feedback of others. Realistically, I’m not going to just stop caring what people think about me. But I can at least make sure I surround myself with people who value the things I also reflectively think are valuable. I can check that social pressures are pushing me in directions Iactually want to go in, and I can make sure I’m still spending at least some time evaluating myself by my own standards. Getting positive feedback from others can be great, but it can also be a bit like a drug: the more you get of it, the more you want – and seeking it might not always be good for you.

Is there a tension between improvement and contentment?

It seems like there's naturally a tension between improvement and contentment: the more you want to improve, the harder it is to be happy with things as they are, and the more content you are, the less drive you will have to improve. I don't think this tension is irresolvable - it's possible to be constantly improving without feeling dissatisfied, though doing so in practice may not be totally straightforward.

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